The cast of characters

 

  • My Husband: After meeting in Hawaii in 1990 I moved to Boulder to be near him. We married in 1992, which is where he changes names in my stories from The Boyfriend to My Husband. We’re still going strong. Our secret? A friend pointed out to us once that we let each other be who we are.
This is us in 2001

This is us in 2001

  • My family: I see my parents and grama (Nana) everyday. We live near one another, and we make a point to spend time eating, visiting, going to the theater. I’m lucky to still have them, and to be so close and enjoy their company so much. The best is when the four generations of females sing in harmony. I want to be able to do that forever.
From left, my mom, my dad, Nana, me, my husband.

From left, my mom, my dad, Nana, me, my husband.

 
The four generations of females, april, 2009 at Avenue Q for Nana's birthday.

The four generations of females, april, 2009 at Avenue Q for Nana's birthday.

  

  • My Oldest Friend: Let’s be clear — I’m three months older. We have been friends since we were 6 years old. We went to the same babysitter. Every day of our childhood we had breakfast, brushed our teeth, watched cartoons and walked to school together. We killed time in the summers, walked home from school, role played, snacked, swang, rode bikes and bought candy at the corner store. She doesn’t remember much of it.
this is us at our 20th high school reunion.

this is us at our 20th high school reunion.

  • My ‘Sister’: Between the ages of 1 and 6 my aunt took care of me, so I thought of my cousin as my big sister. She did all the proper big sister things, let me listen to her Elton John and The Who albums, passed on her Barbies, taught me how to sunbathe with baby oil in the driveway. Unlike a sister, she never teased me, provoked me or fought with me. What a treasure.
us sisters this christmas, with her husband

us sisters this christmas, with her husband

  • Boom Boom: After high school I worked at a theater-style ’50s diner. I was Chantilly Lace. Boom Boom and I got an apartment together and had irresponsible adventures. We’ve got the same degree of uninhibited whimsy. Her oldest daughter is my goddaughter.
Boom Boom and Tilly, 1988

Boom Boom and Tilly, 1988

  • My Junior High School Best Friend: We were inseparable from meeting in seventh grade to the middle of 11th grade. She’s always been just who I wanted to be.

  

My junior high best friend and me during lunch in eighth grade.

My junior high best friend and me during lunch in eighth grade.
  • My High School Best Friend: No one is ever the same kind of girlfriend as your high school best friend. This is someone I can do or say anything to, and she will understand me. Same goes.
Just after high school, in the '80s.
Just after high school, in the ’80s.
... and this summer.

... and this summer.

  •  The ‘Uncles’ — Jer, Matt and Tug: These are the boys my husband lived with in College before we got married, and they just kind of kept being a part of the house. They’re the lifelong kind of friends people are eager to label as ‘family.’
the-uncles2

From left, Uncle Jer, my husband, me, our son, Uncle Tug and Uncle Matt -- out for sushi in Boulder, 1999.

  • Uncle Mike: Michael and I have been friend for about 25 years. Most of our stories take place when we were out at a hotspot on a weekend night. Until I met my husband, he called each of my boyfriends to tell them they weren’t good enough for me.

 me & mike

  •  The Beatles: These are reporters I worked with at The Press, who are all in my poker league, and live in my other house. This is George, John, me and Ringo Jay at my 40th birthday party. Paul was in Europe.

We may be 40, but we’re not grown-ups, nohow.

Here are many of these people in one shot, from left to right, back row first:

My husband's cousin, my 'sister,' the Marines lawyer, my husband, me, my high school best friend, my husband's college best friend, my college best friend, my cousin, our Hawaii hippie best friend, our goddaughter, Boom Boom, my husband's high school best friend

My husband's cousin, my 'sister,' the Marines lawyer, my husband, me, my high school best friend, my husband's college best friend, my college best friend, my cousin, Uncle Matt, our goddaughter, Boom Boom, my husband's high school best friend

  • My Daughter: This 14-year-old girl never gives me any trouble. She is my editor. As children go, she’s exactly what I hoped for. People said, “Parenting isn’t all cuddles at bedtime and laughter at the dinner table.” With her it is.
  • My Son: This child inherited my impishness. We love to be together. He’s taller than the rest of us, affectionate and witty. He drives a car and plays badminton. He has tumors in his head, which you will have read about.
from left, my daughter and my son

from left, my daughter and my son

 
... and up-to-the-minute; taken tonight with my cell phone.
… and up-to-the-minute; taken tonight with my cell phone.
The Baby, on her first night with her birthday kitten.

The Baby, on her first night with her birthday kitten.

 

 

  • Our family friend, Myles: Myles is one of the things I looked forward to about being a parent — the kids who become fixtures in your home. He gave us our first dose of empty nest syndrome last fall.

Alyssa, Myles, Nicole and my son, on the last day of summer break, swimming and barbecuing in my backyard. Myles always asks if the KoolAid and watermelon were because of him. Silly kid.
  • The family tree, Nana’s tier: First it was ‘Mom’ and ‘Papa.’ They had six kids. In order they were Marguerite, Martha, MaryAnn, Elsie, Joe and my grama (Nana). When Papa was murdered, Mom married ‘Daddy,’ who had the same last name and was either Papa’s cousin or friend, depending on whom you ask. They had three more kids: Roxie, Junior and Donny.
  • My mom’s tier: Those nine had my  mom’s cousins. There are Monty, Doreen, Sonny, Jerry, Chauncey, Randy, Richard, Bobby, Joey, Suki, Michael Lee, Marie, J.D., Bryan, Hot Shot, Melody, Adam, Matthew, Little Donny, Connie, Charmaine, Heidi, Daphne, Toni and Gina. My grama had Mama and Unca Rob.

 

  • My tier: Julian, Alan, my sister, Steven, Pam, Vicki, Christi, Susi, Candy, Rick, Derek, Ronnie, Little Randy, Jeff, Craig, Kevin, Stevie, Stephanie, Melanie, Debbie, Kimberly, Christina, Nathan, Hannah, Sierra, Baby Donny, Dustin, Selena, Jonathon, Joseph Jr., Tommy, Michelle, Justin, Brandon, Summer, Bubba, Ashley, Olivia, Erica, Peyton, Trenton, Shane, Deena and Sterling.
  • My kids’ tier: Some names are missing here. Ryan, Carly, Josh, Tyler, Ty, Ryan, Jaden, Riana, Jayden, Kyle, Tristen, and my two.

 

 

One Response to “The cast of characters”

  1. gunky Says:

    crying. i’m crying. it’s so beautiful.
    and happy! you lucky f*#@er!
    you do know i’m bullshitting on half of the stuff i say i don’t remember.
    right?
    xo

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